200+ Questions to Ask a Girl (Categories + Examples)

Talking to girls isn’t always easy. You might get tongue-tied, nervous, and not know where to direct the conversation. With these questions to ask a girl, you can search for common interests and start sharing who you are with the person you’re trying to get to know. 

Use these questions on new friends, old friends, your crush, or even your colleague! You can also check out this list of questions to ask a guy if you’re looking for more variety or questions geared toward men.  


  • What’s the most beautiful place you’ve ever been? 
  • What was the first career that you wanted to have as a kid?
young female astronaut floating in space about a blue planet
  • Would you rather take a vacation in the mountains or at the beach? 
  • Do you prefer soup or salad?
soup vs salad
  • What was the last podcast you listened to? 
  • If you could stop time, how would you use your new superpower? 
  • What are three things that you are grateful for today? 
  • When you travel, what type of souvenir are you most likely to buy? 
  • Do you have an arch-nemesis? 
  • What do you wish you had more time for? 
  • If your life story was a book, what would this chapter be called? 
  • What would be your first purchase if you won the lottery? 
  • Who do you consider to be your “hero?” 
  • Do you have siblings? 
  • What’s a fun fact that you recently learned? 
  • Do any idioms or cliches annoy you when you hear them? 
  • What are “green flags” that you look out for when meeting new people? 
  • When was the last time you left the country?
  • What’s your favorite season?  
  • Do you have any pets? 
  • What is your Kryptonite? 
  • What is one question that you wish people would ask you more often? 
  • Would you prefer working in an office, at home, or a mix of both? 
  • What are people always surprised to learn about you? 
  • Do you prefer to take all of your PTO at once or throughout the year? 
  • When was the last time you laughed so hard you cried? 
  • On a scale from 1-10, how competitive are you? 
  • Do you tip 20% every time you go to a restaurant? 
  • What’s your Starbucks order? 
  • Do you stick to your New Year’s Resolutions? 
  • What calendar or planner do you use to plan your days, weeks, or months? 
  • If you could have been born in any other state, which state would you choose?
a map of the united states with red question marks above montana, new york, nevada, Nebraska, tennessee, and arizona, alaska, and florida

Silly Questions to Ask a Girl Friend 

  • If you could ask your pet two things, what would you ask? 
  • Do you fly any flags outside of your house? If you had to fly one, what would it be?
  • What store do you avoid because you know you’re going to spend too much money? 
  • Do you have a favorite type of writing utensil? 
various writing utensils
  • Would you be excited or mortified if your friends had a waiter sing “Happy Birthday” to you at a restaurant? 
  • What’s the quirkiest thing about you? 
  • On a scale from 1-10, how silly are you? 
  • When was the last time you got your haircut? 
  • Have you ever used a fax machine? 
  • Would you rather have your home renovated by the Gaines family or the Property Brothers? 
  • What’s the last YouTube rabbit hole that you’ve gone down? 
  • Do you have a hard time walking in heels? 
  • If you were a cocktail (or mocktail), what would you be? 
  • Did you have a favorite member of One Direction? 
  • Do any words make you cringe when you hear them? 
  • What’s your favorite way to eat potatoes? 
  • Have you ever cheated while playing Monopoly? 
  • Can you do any celebrity impressions? 
  • What was the last prank you pulled on someone? 
  • Do you wish that someone would throw you a surprise party? 
  • If you were a cheese, what cheese would you be?
  • How much pressure (or how many drinks) does it take for you to consider singing karaoke? 
  • What is your favorite candy? 
different types of candy
  • Do you have a favorite spice or seasoning? 
  • If you were a drag queen, what would your drag queen name be? 
  • What three smartphone apps could you not live without? 
  • Do you believe in extraterrestrials? 
  • How many vests do you own? 
six different vests
  • Would you let aliens abduct you? 
  • How easily do you get embarrassed? 

Casual Questions about Interests and Hobbies

  • If you had to volunteer for five hours a week, where would you volunteer? 
  • What are your thoughts on country music?
a cowboy hat, guitar, and cowboy boots
  • Are you good at keeping houseplants alive? 
  • What is the strangest TikTok genre that’s landed on your For You Page? 
  • Are you a fan of true crime? 
  • Have you ever tried stand-up paddleboarding?  
  • What’s your go-to smoothie recipe? 
  • Have you ever been to the opera? 
  • Did you ever do gymnastics as a kid? 
  • What line from a movie do you quote the most? 
  • Do you like murder mystery novels? 
  • If you had to pick up another hobby, what would you do? 
a woman rollerskating and looking joyful in her hobby
  • Have you ever been fishing? 
  • If you had to write a book, what would it be about? 
  • Did you pick up any new hobbies during the COVID pandemic? 
  • Have you ever been climbing (indoor or outdoor)? 
  • What is the most well-written TV show? 
  • Which Real Housewives city would you most want to be friends with? 
  • When you go to the beach, are you more likely to be sunbathing, reading, or playing beach volleyball? 
  • What’s your favorite thing to shop for? 
  • When was the last time you went to an art museum? 
  • Did you ever learn how to knit or crochet as a child?
a skein of yarn being knitted next to scissors
  • Have you ever been bungy jumping or skydiving? 
  • Do you prefer reading on a Kindle, a physical book, or listening to an audiobook? 
  • If you could only watch one streaming service, what would you pick? 
  • Have you ever taken a pottery or glass-blowing class? 
  • What documentary blew your mind the most? 
  • Do you keep up with watching Oscar-nominated movies? 
  • When you get ready for a vacation, do you pack a few days ahead of time or last-minute? 
  • Do you pay attention to trends in fashion?
  • When was the last time you went camping? 
  • Do you prefer camping or glamping? 
  • How often do you go to the movies? 
  • Have you ever been in a book club?
  • What’s one book that you think everyone should read? 
  • What are your thoughts on reality TV? 

Questions to Ask Your Crush 

  • What makes you feel jealous? 
  • Do you think it’s possible for men and women to be friends? 
  • If you had the chance to be the Bachelorette, would you accept? 
  • If you could get a Cameo from any celebrity for your birthday, who would you choose? 
  • How far is too far for a long-distance relationship? 
two heart emojis on either side of the globe symbolizing a long distance relationship
  • Have you ever broken someone’s heart? 
  • What is your best dating advice? 
  • Do you think it’s appropriate to talk about politics or religion on a first date? 
  • What does it take for you to feel supported by your friends or partner? 
a couple sitting on the grass looking off into the distance
  • Do you Google or Instagram stalk your dates before you meet up with them? 
  • If you woke up with 1 million Instagram followers tomorrow morning, how would you use your platform? 
  • What’s the cringiest pick-up line that someone’s ever used on you? 
  • Have you ever attended a PowerPoint party? 
  • Is PDA cute or cringey? 
  • Do you believe that people look to date people who are like their parents? 
  • Have you ever been to a fortune teller or tarot card reader?
  • What does your perfect Sunday look like? 
  • How important do you think star signs are in compatibility? 
  • Have you ever walked out on a date? 
  • What kind of parent do you think you will be? 
two parents joyfully making a salad with their young daughter
  • Do you prefer a partner who likes all the same things or someone who has very different interests? 
  • Do you think dinner and a movie is a classic or a cheesy first date? 
  • What makes you immediately swipe left? 
a person with manicured nails swiping left on a tinder profile
  • Do you feel pressured to get married or have children?  
  • What’s your favorite way to indulge in self-care? 
  • Is it easy for you to open up to new friends? 
  • Have you ever ghosted someone? 
a man holding his phone looking confused while a woman walks away from him
  • How important is it to you that your parents like your partner? 

Deep Questions to Start a Serious Conversation

  • Are you more likely to listen to your heart or your head? 
a scale containing a heart on one side and a brain on the other side
  • What is one thing that you think, if everyone did, could improve the world significantly? 
  • Do you follow the same religion that you were brought up to follow? 
  • Do you believe everyone has a purpose in life?
  • Has there ever been a time when you thought you were going to die?  
an image of a gravestone with a red question mark
  • What is your philosophy in life? 
  • Why do you think people commit crimes?
  • Do you have any regrets? 
  • What do you wish you had more time for? 
  • Are there any companies that you boycott because you don’t agree with their values?  
  • Do you think that “no one wants to work anymore?” 
  • What makes you special? 
  • Do you think you’re misunderstood by people? 
  • What phenomenon in psychology fascinates you the most? 
  • Are you good with confrontation, or does it make you nervous? 
  • Do you support capital punishment? 
  • What are your hopes and dreams? 
  • Is stealing ethical if you’re stealing from a corrupt company? 
  • Do you think that everything happens for a reason? 
  • How can people make you feel supported when you’re having a rough day? 
  • Are you more likely to seek revenge against someone who has wronged you or forgive them?  
  • What are your thoughts when you hear the words “cancel culture”? 
  • Do you think that everyone should go to therapy?
  • What do you think needs to happen in order for all people to be treated completely equal in society? 
  • What is a lesson that your parents tried to teach you but you learned too late in life? 
  • How much of our personality do you attribute to nature or nurture? 
  • What do you want to be remembered for when you die? 
  • What do you think the world is going to be like in 10 years? 20? 50? 

Question To Ask a Girl About Childhood, Family and Friends

  • Do you have any family traditions during the winter holidays (Christmas, Hanukkah, etc.)?
  • What’s something that your family does that no one else does? 
  • Which traits did you get from each of your parents? 
  • Do you prefer hanging out with one best friend or a larger group of close and casual friends? 
  • Out of your best friends, who is most likely to be late to a party? 
  • What pets did you have as a child?
seven different pets: bird, fish, rat, rabbit, dog, guinea pig, and cat
  • How was your room decorated when you were a kid? 
  • If you had to plan a bachelorette party for your best friend, where would you go? 
  • What is the best memory you have of your parents? 
  • Do you always take your friends’ advice when it comes to dating? 
  • Who was the best (and the worst) roommate you ever had? 
  • When was the last time you hosted a party? 
  • Do you have baby names picked out already? 
  • Were you in the gifted program at school? 
  • Who is the friend you’ve known the longest? 
  • In what ways do you find yourself acting just like your parents? 
  • Do your friends and parents ever hang out without you?
  • What are the most important lessons that your parents have taught you? 
  • Does the idea of getting pregnant excite or scare you? 
a positive pregnancy test between a woman looking excited and the same woman looking shocked

Miscellaneous Questions to Ask a Girl 

  • What fashion trend do you think should come back? 
  • Have you ever missed a flight? 
  • Do you prefer a more sweet or savory brunch? 
  • What is one thing that you wish more men understood about women? 
  • Which old movie star do you think is the most fabulous? 
  • Do you like getting flowers as a gift? 
  • What is your favorite word to say out loud? 
  • Do you have any fur coats in your wardrobe? 
  • What’s your favorite turn of phrase? 
  • What books have you read multiple times? 
  • Who do you think should be added to Mt. Rushmore? 
mount rushmore with a red question mark on the face of the rock next to abraham lincoln
  • What’s the one clothing item that you tend to splurge on? 
  • Are you open to fostering or adopting children? 
  • Do you order any subscription boxes? 
  • What advice would you give to someone who is trying to break a bad habit?  
  • Who is your favorite author? 
  • Do you think it’s better to be amazing at one thing or pretty good at a handful of things? 
  • What was the last National Park you’ve been to? 
  • If you had the choice to hike the AT, the PCT, or the Continental Divide Trail, which would you choose? 
  • What’s a classic etiquette rule that you think more people should follow? 
  • When was your most exciting celebrity sighting? 
  • If you wrote a book, which author do you think you’d be compared to? 
  • What is the most annoying thing to pack when you move? 
hands wrapping a bowl up in bubble wrap in a big box of kitchen items
  • Do you think that any popular bands/TV shows/movies are overrated? 
  • If you could have 1,000,000 followers on any social media platform, which one would you choose? 
  • Should the working world switch to a four-day, ten-hour workweek?
  • Are you going to rent or own the next place that you live?

Theodore T.

Theodore is a professional psychology educator with over 10 years of experience creating educational content on the internet. PracticalPsychology started as a helpful collection of psychological articles to help other students, which has expanded to a Youtube channel with over 2,000,000 subscribers and an online website with 500+ posts.